Lets Start from a quote of Albert Einstein about human nature:
The real problem is in the hearts and minds of men. It is not a problem of physics but of ethics. It is easier to denature plutonium than to denature the evil from the spirit of man.
As is said above problem always arises in mind and heart .But the real thing is that when your mind and heart are saying the same thing you can come to a conclusion .It may be right or wrong from different persons perspective .But atleast you feel satisfied.But the situation gets worst when your heart and mind are not aligned.I mean when one thinks in two different planes for the same common point. I am sorry for being little bit mathematical for describing my view.One finds it hard what to follow heart or mind.The real question is how to come to conclusion? I am leaving this question to you all?
Now lets starts from childhood considering typical Indian scenario where parents take care of their child in bringing up.they do everything for his child happiness,wants to give everything what their child want.Now the question comes why do they do this? Is it because of their responsibility ,ethics or selfishness?
Why are parents responsible for their children or vice verse ?Is it just because it has been going on in our society for a long time or their is some force that binds everyone together ?Ethics is very broader term to describe .We always says some things is ethical or unethical.How do we decide it? Is there some sets of written rules which takes care of it?
Considering the urban society ,typically child stays with parents for 20 years during that time during that time there stays a lots of affection ,responsibility between each one.Parents want to see his child at the top.Some are able to reach at top and others are not.But there are some guys in the middle ,neither at top or at bottom.Some of them feels they could have been at top ,they satisfy themselves by giving several reasons that why they are not at top.
If you get a chance meet a successful person ,talk to him .You will find a lots of pain ,sleepless night and night candle light burning for several years which he cant forget till his death.Most of the person will say its just a matter of chance.
Do you really think so??????
If every one in this world wants to be happy ,want to love and loved.Then why is so much envy and hatredness in this world ? Do you think words only can make you to love someone and being loved by someone or being hated by someone.
we love our parents throughout the life and suddenly someone comes in the life, I mean lover,within few months or so we develop intimate relationship.Each one is ready to do anything for each other.They are even ready to die for each other .Is it because of feelings that is developed during course of time .So what one can say about feelings ,can we compare it to glass which can be broken just because of few words forever like glass once falls down.
One thing I would like to say what I have realized old saying are never wrong.It takes time to realise it.
BLOOD IS ALWAYS THICKER THAN WATER.
If feelings can be generated or eliminated so quickly the what is there that binds people together.What was there in between laila and majhnu which made them die for their love.Is the love only dependent on feelings.
Often it happens we realise things aftersome time.We should come to any decision after thinking over several time like shakespeare said Think seven times before you arrive at any decision .
Forgivenss is the biggest thing in the world which you can gift someone.
Its never too late to realise you mistakes and work on it to improve it.
I am sorry if I couldnot write well as its my first time .I have left several question for you I will be grateful to you if you could answer.
Thanks
The problem of not able to decide in mind v/s heart is really a tough one. I would just love to continue mathematical analogy; to find a common point thinking from two different planes has infinte many solution ie the common line, but the set from which u have to decide this infinitely infinite. The multitude of our options is our greatest enemy; hence one should attempt to be simple to simplify the dilemma.
ReplyDeleteVery beautiful compilation of ur thought process. U have opened all the layers of relationships. But I believe that everything we do for ourself, for others(although very rarely), for our parents, for anybody, or vice versa, there is some sort of madness is always hidden behind it. Being a child u always See or Think whatever u r being tought but as u grow older u develop ur own thought process, u decide ur own priorities, ur own aims and ur own ways to get through it. That's reason u burn ur midnight oil or u do excessive mental masturbation whatever but ur ultimate aim is what??? To achieve happiness for urself and ur family being it ur girlfriend or ur parents.
ReplyDeleteThen one fine day ur stars shine and u become renound personality, u will also tell others how much suffered to reach here.
So ultimately it's only ur love, ur madness, ur experience which compels u to care for ur parents, make seperate space for ur girlfriend in ur heart and be loyal to it.
Nice post man, some very nice questions. Not quite sure there are right answers to all of them. How to make your heart and mind agree when they're at odds is definitely hard, even trying to define what is the right answer there is difficult. As for parents, I'd like to think they do what they do out of love and affection for us, same for what children for parents. I don't think societal pressures are the only reasons for familial behavior. As for whether success is hardwork or luck or a combination of the two, well, truly the hardest one. I do think it is a combination of the 2, but one begets the other, a lot of hardwork usually tends to bring good "luck". I guess it depends on the viewpoint, whether you see from the person who achieved the success, or from the point of view of the one you left behind or surpassed.
ReplyDeleteTruly nice post man, very insightful, keep it up!
nice post man...
ReplyDeleteI'll comment on the questions raised after some thinking
Nice post dude...
ReplyDeleteRegards
Praful
A very intense post by all respects. There are some very eternally simple questions asked with some 1000 possible different
ReplyDeleteanswers. Just get a feeling that these questions were posed during some trying times of the mind and the heart. My humble opinion on some of these:
Q1). Mind vs Heart - Always follow the heart. Many people(successful) in their 60's and 70's complain that they could have won the world had they followed their heart. Personal opinion is not following the heart brings more regrets later on.
Q2). Parenting - In most cases, there is another basic instinct other than responsibility, selfishness, or ethics - Love for one's own blood. I guess this has been subtly answered later on in "BLOOD IS ALWAYS THICKER THAN WATER".
Q3). Success - Personal opinion is success by chance is like marrying a rich widow - already used. Success is always sweetest when well earned.
Q4). Envy and Hate - The very fact that every one wants to be happy is(my opinion again) the cause of envy and hate. When the world perceives a man to be happy, he is envied. When the world perceives a man to be bad(unhappy, incapable of love or being loved), he is hated. But envy and hate are justified (!!) - whenever happiness and love become simple abstract nouns and move outside the realm of reality.
Overall, I feel these questions have been delivered with panache for a first-time writer. Keep it up! Looking forward to more such intense blogs in the future.